When a relationship breaks down there may be a temptation to say “That’s it! I don’t want to speak to you again.” Talking to your former partner might be just too painful – it’s just turning the knife in the wound, but in the long-term keeping the lines of communication open can reap massive benefits, especially where you have children together.
We see many couples with relationships that have come an end and it’s clear that the majority of disputes that we deal with are the result of poor communication – or, in some cases, no communication at all. These are our tips to help you and your children minimise stress and achieve a better outcome for the family, even if you are now living separately:
- Keep a communication book.
- Direct communication is best
- Talk on neutral ground
- See the other person’s viewpoint
- Keep the kids in the communication loop