Dealing with a narcissist can be a challenging experience, especially during and following the breakdown of a relationship. You may be concerned by the potential detrimental effect a narcissist could have on the legal process during a separation, and on your emotional wellbeing.
Narcissism is a personality disorder, referred to as NPD, which can only be diagnosed by a qualified medical professional. It is a complex area which still requires further investigation and recognition in the UK. For more information on Narcissism, read our blog on Narcissism – Is my partner a narcissist – E J Coombs Solicitors.
It is important to understand the traits of narcissistic personality disorder, which can include an inflated sense of self-importance, a constant need for attention, a lack of empathy, and a tendency to manipulate others. If these behaviours can be recognised, it is more likely that a proactive approach can be considered and developed to manage their impact during family proceedings.
There are options for you to consider and steps you may wish to take to assist you with navigating family law proceedings with a narcissist:-
Keeping records:
Maintaining documented records of interactions, including emails, text messages noting dates, times, and relevant details, while minimising verbal discussions, may assist you with providing supporting evidence of patterns of behaviour and to highlight any inconsistencies and/or any attempts of manipulation by a narcissist.
Seek emotional support:
Separating from your partner can be emotionally draining and overwhelming in any circumstance but may carry additional pressure where a narcissist is involved. It is important to look after and prioritise your mental and emotional wellbeing, such as seeking support from specialist therapists, counsellors, and support groups for narcissistic abuse which may help you to stay grounded.
Limit your engagement with narcissistic behaviour:
As many narcissists have a need to exert control, they may seek to manipulate situations and those around them. If you are clear on your own expectations and limits, and avoid engaging in unnecessary arguments, this may offer you some protection from these behaviours. By keeping your interactions narrow and focused on important matters that need to be addressed, such as the finances and arrangements for any children, this may avoid you being drawn into confrontations that are intended to provoke an emotional response.
Stay focussed on the bigger picture:
When navigating court proceedings, it is crucial to try and stay focussed on objective facts, evidence, and the end goal rather than getting caught up in emotional arguments or attempts to discredit your character. Narcissists often thrive on conflict and may seek to wage a war of character assassination and/or misinformation to try and warp reality, thereby prolonging the legal process. Therefore, keeping focus on the bigger picture and presenting your case in a clear and concise way may assist in thwarting these tactics.
Seek legal advice:
We are experienced family lawyers who can offer guidance and expertise to help you to navigate the court process. If you need advice to go through your options, do not hesitate to contact us at enquiries@ejcoombs.co.uk or telephone any of our offices and we can advise you.
